You Are Still Allowed to Become...

There comes a point in many women’s lives where they realise they have spent so much time showing up for everyone else that they have slowly stopped showing up for themselves.

Not intentionally.

Not because they do not care about themselves.

But because life becomes full of responsibility, pressure, expectation and survival.

And somewhere in the middle of trying to hold everything together, it becomes easy to lose connection with the woman behind the role.

That is one of the reasons The Original Yummy Mummy exists.

Not to encourage perfection.

Not to make women feel like they need to have everything figured out.

But to remind women that motherhood should never mean losing themselves in the process.

Not their identity.

Not their joy.

Not their softness.

Not their ambition.

Not their ability to continue becoming.

So many women are carrying far more than people realise.

Some are rebuilding quietly.

Some are emotionally exhausted.

Some are trying to reconnect with themselves outside of responsibility.

Some are learning how to choose themselves again without feeling guilty for it.

And some are simply trying to believe that life can still hold peace, growth and possibility for them too.

And honestly, many women are doing a much better job than they give themselves credit for.

This space exists for those women.

The women who are growing quietly.

The women who are trying again.

The women who are still becoming.

A space rooted in honesty, encouragement and intentional growth.

A space that gently reminds women that they are still allowed to:

dream,

rest,

evolve,

heal,

build,

expand,

and become.

Because becoming the best version of yourself is rarely a perfect or linear journey. Sometimes growth feels beautiful. Sometimes it feels uncomfortable. Painful even. Sometimes it means rebuilding parts of yourself quietly while still continuing to show up for life every day.

But it is also one of the most important journeys a woman will ever take.

And no matter what season of motherhood or womanhood you are in, you do not have to disappear inside of it.

You are still here.

And you are still becoming.

Maybe this season is the beginning of finding your way back to yourself a little more intentionally. Maybe it is the season where you stop shrinking, stop abandoning yourself emotionally, and start giving yourself permission to become again.

Wherever you are on that journey, I hope this space reminds you that you are not alone in it.

You are still worthy of care.

Still worthy of rest.

Still worthy of growth.

Still worthy of the life you quietly hope for.

And no matter how long the journey takes, you are still allowed to become the best version of yourself.

Love and Light,

TOYM 🤍

My Son and my light...

In the last 9+ years, one thing that has been consistent is the love that I have for my son. His very being is what lets me know that I am capable of absolutely anything and will always come out on top, despite the trials and tribulations. Earlier this year, it seemed as though I lost sight of this and was looking for the extra motivation from elsewhere with no avail; but in light of the lockdown and the many events that took place during this time, I received the reminder that I needed from my son and through my faith. For me, my son's belief in me and my faith are two of the lessons that I am most grateful for in this season (that and great skin for the most part)!

Children (at any stage), have a way of teaching you lessons that you sometimes think you'll learn from other life experiences or other 'adults' - there's an innocence in them, that they don't overthink things like we do. When we tap into this and are in tune with this straightforward way of thinking, it can change/ help things for the better.

I'm so thankful for my son (my literal ray of sunshine in human form), he reminds me every. single. day. that he loves me - it is so beautiful to know that I am raising an emotionally intelligent young King, who knows and can show love; I'm thankful for the hope that I see in his eyes when he looks at me; I'm thankful for the way he hypes me up - even if it's because of the noodles I've made him; I'm thankful for his laughter and all the questions that he asks me (maybe not all of them lol); I'm thankful that he truly believes that I'm the best mum ever and that I can do anything; I'm thankful that as young as he is, he believes in me and reminds me that 'I can' - so even if I go off track a bit, I never lose sight of who I am! And can I just shout out my son for his prayers?! We talk about a prayerful mother, but my son's prayers truly warm my heart...

... More than anything, I am sooo thankful that God chose me to be his mother! It hasn't been easy; parenting (no matter what your personal situation is) is not easy - but when I look at him, I see love, unconditional love; I see all the good times and I'm hopeful for the even better times ahead.

Thank you son, my angel here on earth; because of you I will always aspire to be the best and yummiest version of myself; because of you, I will always pick myself up when I'm feeling down; because of you, I am unstoppable and a force to be reckoned with!

I read this to my son Jay and it made him teary eyed - which made me cry tears of joy, because in that moment I knew that he knew just how much he means to me. With his consent, I share this with you, so that if you haven't reminded yourself in a while; you can think about what your 'why' is. This site is about who we are, and not just whose mother's we are; it's important to always know and be intentional about our 'why'! If your 'why' is the same as mine, then that's lovely; but I also want to acknowledge that it's ok for your why to be something else, it's ok to have more than one why and it's ok for your why to be about you; as long as you know what it is, so that when you just aren't feelin' 'it'; you can remind yourself and get back on track.

Sending you love and light,

TOYM xx